Hey, what’s up everyone! Welcome back to another episode of the Daily New Year’s podcast.
I’m so excited today because this episode of the podcast takes us to the UK. I’ve interviewed one other person from the United Kingdom before, Tomas, in episode #25, and it’s always neat to connect with thought leaders around the world.
Today, Harriet Waley-Cohen and I are diving deep into a specific topic—one that has played a role in holding me back in my own life: perfectionism.
Perfectionism is the enemy of done, and it causes confidence issues, procrastination problems, and so much more. Why tell you everything here?
Dive into the episode and join Harriet and me as we wage war on perfectionism and not feeling good enough about ourselves. Here we go!
- Getting to Know Harriet – [02:28]
- Waging War on the “Not Good Enough” Epidemic – [04:40]
- The Perfection and Confidence Connection – [06:45]
- The Toxic Side of Perfectionism – [08:09]
- The Procrastinating Perfectionist Problem – [09:18]
- Where does the Need for Perfectionism Come From? – [12:15]
- 1. The Compare and Despair Culture – [13:12]
- 2. The Measurement Culture – [14:20]
- 3. Capitalism (Being Measured by Materials) – [15:26]
- The Negative Side Effects of Toxic Perfectionism – [16:55]
- Safeguarding Yourself Against this Perfection Problem – [19:27]
- The Correlations Between Perfectionism and High Performance – [23:23]
- Setting Intentions vs Setting Goals – [27:48]
- Question Your Thoughts and Telling Yourself You are Good Enough – [30:55]
- Ask Yourself, “What would love do?” – [32:22]
About Harriet Waley-Cohen
Sought after to speak for audiences including Microsoft, WeAreTheCity, Barclays, and Invesco, Harriet Waley-Cohen has empowered thousands of people over the last 15 years to believe in themselves and their potential.
She has been through multiple transformations herself and knows what it takes to make deep-rooted changes that stick and to get through tough times and come out the other side stronger and wiser than ever. Harriet is 17 years into her recovery from addictions, left an unhappy marriage, and went on to thrive.
She shifted from a 10-year banking career into motherhood and entrepreneurship, lives with a permanent pain condition after being hit by a car in 2016, and she is a recent breast cancer survivor.
Harriet’s mission is to make sure people know their true value. She empowers clients and audiences to leave behind self-doubt, disempowering patterns, and overwhelm in favor of new ways of thinking, feeling, and acting that create confidence, wellbeing, and success.
She is described by Vanessa Vallely OBE, MD of WeAreThe City, as “a real superwoman who empowers others wherever she goes.”
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Quotes from this Episode
“Being a perfectionist; it’s a bit Darth Vader and Luke Skywalker, alregiht. It’s got the dark side and the light side.” —Harriet Waley-Cohen
“I don’t think that all people who don’t feel good enough are perfectionsists. However, I feel that all perfectionists don’t feel good enough.” —Harriet Waley-Cohen
“Give yourself a pat on the back, stop to breathe, stop to take it all in—I actually think there’s a lof of wisdom in those pauses.” —Harriet Waley-Cohen
“Goals aren’t about being perfect; they’re about being better than you were before.” —Austin Bollinger